Posts by Dr. Pam Monday

Parenting College-Age Youth

Parenting College-Age Youth

Congratulations! You have a college-age child — that means you have successfully gotten through the tough developmental periods of infancy, early childhood, and the teenage years. Pat yourselves on the back! Now, you job isn’t over yet — but there are some things you might want to know about parenting the college-age person. Here are...

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Seven Tips for Parents of Teens: Healthy Communication

1. Build Trust by Treating Your Teen With Respect. Ask, rather than demand. Value their ideas, even if you don’t agree. Praise effort. Tell them you love them. Talk to them with a respectful tone of voice. Ask if they want your advice before you start giving it. Respect and establish boundaries — physical and...

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Parenting in Recovery: Recognizing Legacies from the Past

Parenting your children once you are in your own recovery is one of the most difficult challenges you will face. Few of us bring home a parenting manual along with the diapers when the baby and we leave the hospital, and unfortunately, parenting, like conflict resolution, isn’t usually taught in school. If you are in...

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What Questions Should You Ask Before Giving an Ex Another Chance? – Personal Space Interview at Bravo

The second time may be the charm, but only if you get all the answers you need <strong><em>before</em></strong> getting back together!

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Guys: Want the Secret to Having Sex Often? 5 Things to NEVER Forget – Guest Post at Your Tango

Research by Dr. Willard Harley, a nationally acclaimed clinical psychologist, says sexual fulfillment, a recreational and attractive companion, domestic support, and admiration are men’s top five needs in a relationship. But if you aren’t getting laid enough, you need to focus on what she needs.

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6 Key Questions To Ask Yourself Before You End A Bad Relationship – Guest Post at Your Tango

Ending a relationship is one of the hardest things we will ever have to do. Most of us go back and forth in our minds for what seems like forever if we’ve invested a bunch of time with guys who just insist on being themselves, and we are fed up.

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Forgiving and Letting Go

Whole Life, November, 1992. When I agreed to write this article for Whole Life, I never dreamed how I would procrastinate! I actually missed the first deadline – something I simply never do, even if it means staying up all night in order to finish an article! As I have wrestled with this topic, I...

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Austin Family Counselor

Finding My Father

I returned from the American Association for Marriage and Family Therapy conference two years ago more excited than I usually am after a meeting, especially electrified by a workshop I had attended on family secrets. The idea that much so-called psychological pathology might arise from shame over long-buried family secrets struck a deep chord in...

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